News Apache Junction Police Investing Allegations of Sexual Assault Inside Memory Care Unit of Assisted Living Facility

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So this one is an interesting one, because both of the people involved are patients of the memory care unit of this particular assisted living facility. The woman involved has severe dementia and is non-verbal, so cannot consent to physical relationships and is known to be shy about having staff assist her with activities such as bathing, going to the bathroom, grooming and so on. The male patient involved has "some mental cognition issues," and mostly has the attitude more in line with a young child than a mature adult. The daughter of the female patient involved is blaming the staff for negligence in this instance and both patients were found alone in the male patient's room with the door locked from the inside. Both were found naked from the waste down, with the man standing over the woman in a sexually compromising position, to which the male patient said he was "just teasing" the female patient and that they did not have intercourse. He also claimed that the female patient was his girlfriend, in spite of the fact that the female patient suffers from severe dementia and is non-verbal.

Staff claim that this incident occurred directly after lunch, during a time at which most staff members are occupied with toileting tasks for patients, and so both patients were out of sight for roughly 10 minutes. The daughter of the female patient says she was the one who contacted authorities and that she was not contacted for almost 24 hours after the incident, while a statement released by the care facility claim that they alerted authorities as soon as they were alerted to the incident and then informed family members and had trained medical professionals examine the female patient. The male patient was moved to a separate building within the facility, while the female patient has now been moved to a separate assisted living community altogether. This was, apparently, the first incident of any kind for either patient, and both had been there for at least 3 years.

Facts of the article aside, this one has my blood boiling. I have a mother who I'm losing every day one piece at a time to dementia, so stories like this always hit me hard when I read them, but I also understand how people with dementia can act. So I completely understand the daughter's position here, and I completely 100% agree with her. In spite of being fully staffed and occupied with necessary tasks, there should never be a chance for patients to be unsupervised and alone unless they are asleep. I know that if I leave my mother alone for more than a few minutes she gets frantic and terrified, so the thought that people in the same position (IN A MEMORY CARE UNIT!) could be alone for upwards of 10 minutes or more...that's terrifying to me. They could think they're lost, they could start attacking other patients out of fear and not knowing what was going on, they could harm themselves, any number of things could have happened in that length of time. There needs to be either a staggering of these post-lunch duties so that someone is there to care for the patients while other staff handle the duties, or there needs to be an increase in the number of staff available. Also how in the holy hell could two people in a MEMORY CARE UNIT(!!!!) be in a room that could be locked from the inside?! Why would they be able to lock their doors from the inside?! I understand locking the facility doors and taking precautions with private offices and staff rooms, but patient rooms? Absolutely not! They're there because they have mental cognition issues that, yes range from the very mild, but scale right up to the absolute severe. Having doors that can be locked from the inside is asking for trouble, 100%. A right to privacy is one thing, a simple "patient in room, please knock" light or sign that goes on when staff press a button while escorting them to and from their rooms during the day would work to fix that problem, but locks...locks should be an absolute no for memory care units. Not so they can't feel secure, maybe put a mock lock on the door so they can feel like they've locked it, but it doesn't actually lock, but never ever let a person with severe mental cognition issues lock themselves in a room. That cannot and should never be ok.

This is why I can't see myself ever trusting a care facility to take care of my mother. I don't ever want to receive a phone call like that, that's my mother and I want nothing but the best for her...At any rate, horrific thing to have happen in a care facility, and something this particular facility needs to be seriously looked at to ensure it does not and can not happen again.
 

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I know that my nana was abused and mistreated/neglected. My mom wanted to do something about it but the place was going to fight it with the best lawyers. She never did. The one nurse that worked there told her it wasn't even worth it because they get out of it all the time.
 

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I know that my nana was abused and mistreated/neglected. My mom wanted to do something about it but the place was going to fight it with the best lawyers. She never did. The one nurse that worked there told her it wasn't even worth it because they get out of it all the time.
Yep, and they'd be paying for those lawyers with the money your mother was giving them. I can't ever envision myself putting any family member in a place like that, the horror stories are just too abundant.
 
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Yep, and they'd be paying for those lawyers with the money your mother was giving them. I can't ever envision myself putting any family member in a place like that, the horror stories are just too abundant.
I really hope they better fund/cover costs of in home help and nurses. Too often people don't have a choice
 
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I really hope they better fund/cover costs of in home help and nurses. Too often people don't have a choice
It would make things a lot easier for people to have affordable in home care, that's for sure. Easier to keep the person more relaxed in a familiar environment, easier for us looking after them, and easier for the caregiver that comes to help, as they're likely to find someone more at ease. It's a shame people are forced into putting family members into care facilities, it absolutely should not be a "we have no choice" situation. Then they're going to pick the most affordable option, irrespective of complaints or standards, and that's not going to bode well for the family member. Keeping them home is the best possible solution, so it needs to be affordable.
 
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It would make things a lot easier for people to have affordable in home care, that's for sure. Easier to keep the person more relaxed in a familiar environment, easier for us looking after them, and easier for the caregiver that comes to help, as they're likely to find someone more at ease. It's a shame people are forced into putting family members into care facilities, it absolutely should not be a "we have no choice" situation. Then they're going to pick the most affordable option, irrespective of complaints or standards, and that's not going to bode well for the family member. Keeping them home is the best possible solution, so it needs to be affordable.
It would have cost my Nana over 4 grand a month out of pocket which was more than she and my grandpa got a month.
 
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It would have cost my Nana over 4 grand a month out of pocket which was more than she and my grandpa got a month.
That's ridiculous and exploitative. People need help, so let's jack the prices up. Same thing they do with medicines...it's monstrous that people can treat healthcare the way they do.
 
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That's ridiculous and exploitative. People need help, so let's jack the prices up. Same thing they do with medicines...it's monstrous that people can treat healthcare the way they do.
It should be an automatic discount of 70% for people over 70. How do they expect them to pay? Get a job? Like wtf
 
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It should be an automatic discount of 70% for people over 70. How do they expect them to pay? Get a job? Like wtf
You'd think it would be a given that elderly patients aren't exactly working 9 to 5s, but I guess they expect family members to cover the cost and that's that. Insanity.
 
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You'd think it would be a given that elderly patients aren't exactly working 9 to 5s, but I guess they expect family members to cover the cost and that's that. Insanity.
People who can't physically work should be able to get most things covered for them. They can do physical examinations so no one abuses it and only people who need it get it, not lazy people who just don't wanna work.
 
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People who can't physically work should be able to get most things covered for them. They can do physical examinations so no one abuses it and only people who need it get it, not lazy people who just don't wanna work.
Agreed, the people in the most vulnerable positions should absolutely be looked after without having to worry about paying for it. It kills me to think that stores have special hours for elderly shoppers right now, and how many of them are still not able to go because they're vulnerable. I know there are people out there who are actually running grocery orders for vulnerable people and I love that, but why does it have to fall on the people to look after their fellow man, why can't the government get that little detail right? It's a level of ineptitude that I just can't fathom. Governments should tend to the needs of their citizens, especially those most vulnerable.
 

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Agreed, the people in the most vulnerable positions should absolutely be looked after without having to worry about paying for it. It kills me to think that stores have special hours for elderly shoppers right now, and how many of them are still not able to go because they're vulnerable. I know there are people out there who are actually running grocery orders for vulnerable people and I love that, but why does it have to fall on the people to look after their fellow man, why can't the government get that little detail right? It's a level of ineptitude that I just can't fathom. Governments should tend to the needs of their citizens, especially those most vulnerable.
That is a slippery slope though. We don't want them to have much say in our personal lives. I think if most people looked out for each other in their communities this wouldn't be as big of an issue as it is. Small American towns still have that going for them and the Amish. They put us all to shame lol
 
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That is a slippery slope though. We don't want them to have much say in our personal lives. I think if most people looked out for each other in their communities this wouldn't be as big of an issue as it is. Small American towns still have that going for them and the Amish. They put us all to shame lol
That's the magical balancing act that countries need to get right, having governments that look after their people, but don't nanny state their way into controlling the people. Very difficult thing to balance, no question. Agreed, though, if the everyday person cared for their neighbor the way they used to, and yes still do in some places, things would be a hell of a lot better.
 
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...and now I'm sitting here damn near in tears because my mother just looked at me and had one of her rare moments of clarity. I took her for a drive, we picked up some food and now I'm sitting at my desk while she's sitting in my office with me watching a movie, she finished eating, looked right at me and said "I'm sorry, son, I just get so confused sometimes that I'm scared. Thank you for keeping me in order." That's my once in a few weeks / couple of months visit from my actual mother...she's already back to rambling and getting agitated. It was nice, but oh so fleeting.
 

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...and now I'm sitting here damn near in tears because my mother just looked at me and had one of her rare moments of clarity. I took her for a drive, we picked up some food and now I'm sitting at my desk while she's sitting in my office with me watching a movie, she finished eating, looked right at me and said "I'm sorry, son, I just get so confused sometimes that I'm scared. Thank you for keeping me in order." That's my once in a few weeks / couple of months visit from my actual mother...she's already back to rambling and getting agitated. It was nice, but oh so fleeting.
I'm sorry it doesn't last longer.

I don't know if it is something she would enjoy or not but lemon juice is said to help some people. Might be worth trying. You can probly just get that purely lemenaid stuff if she likes lemonaid.
 
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We have actually tried lemon-based solutions before, she is not a fan. We've also been trying cranberry and plenty of different nuts, because they supposedly work, too. So far to no effect.
 
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We have actually tried lemon-based solutions before, she is not a fan. We've also been trying cranberry and plenty of different nuts, because they supposedly work, too. So far to no effect.
Does she willingly take vitamins? Coconut oil capsules might be an option. I know healthy fats support the brain and encourage tissue repair. There aren't many studies out on it but it has been said to have helped a number of people. Even if it just gives you a little more time with your real mom, it would be worth it.
 
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Does she willingly take vitamins? Coconut oil capsules might be an option. I know healthy fats support the brain and encourage tissue repair. There aren't many studies out on it but it has been said to have helped a number of people. Even if it just gives you a little more time with your real mom, it would be worth it.
She does, yeah. Right now she's taking B12, D3 and we're trying CBD because it's supposed to be effective an negating the plaque that builds up to cause dementia.
 
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She does, yeah. Right now she's taking B12, D3 and we're trying CBD because it's supposed to be effective an negating the plaque that builds up to cause dementia.
Well if you want to give it a try, the ones I use are good. I have taken them for years with no issues. They are by NOW Foods. 1000mg capsules. They are big but they go down easily because they are filled with oil. You can also opt to use coconut oil for cooking. They sell unflavored kinds. Just make sure it is the whole coconut oil, not the liquidized clear stuff. I do hope you find something that starts to help her.
 
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