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<blockquote data-quote="Super Kami Guru" data-source="post: 15703" data-attributes="member: 22"><p>I think that's probably why I don't want her to come more than anything else, shattering that memory of who she was. It's a very difficult thing to see the person you think of as your mother coming after you and calling you every name she can think of because she's confused and scared and translates that into vitriol when, in her normal mind, she wouldn't dare speak to people like that. She'll snap at anyone, for any reason (or no reason at all), and it can get violent at times, and I just don't want to have to deal with that AND my sister's inevitable coming to terms with the realities of who our mother is now at the same time. I'm lucky enough that my sister who is just a year older than me is around enough to help out occasionally, but this would be another situation in itself and that's terrifying. I love my sister, I'd love her to come for a visit, but I know she couldn't handle this, and I would hate for her kids to be exposed to it, as well. You're right, though, Covid being what it is, she may not be able to get out here, anyway. I know the UK is going back on lockdown, so odds are she won't for a good while at the very least, but if she does choose to at some point...well, it'll be something!</p><p></p><p>As for me keeping it together, honestly, most days I'm not. I get to bed at night and just want to punch walls and have a complete breakdown, but I don't because I know if I'm out of commission there's no one there to help her. Not to mention the fact I've got all of my own medical issues going on that keeps me occupied, as well, and there's plenty there that keeps me on the edge of a breakdown. Not saying all of this searching for sympathy, it's just life and we all have our issues going on. What helps is having an outlet and using that outlet. For me it's games, but that's becoming difficult to find time for, so it's also websites, communities like this one, and just trying to have fun and get some enjoyment out of whatever I do to relieve that stress. Can't keep it all in all the time, so find a way to get it out and it really helps to balance you out a bit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Super Kami Guru, post: 15703, member: 22"] I think that's probably why I don't want her to come more than anything else, shattering that memory of who she was. It's a very difficult thing to see the person you think of as your mother coming after you and calling you every name she can think of because she's confused and scared and translates that into vitriol when, in her normal mind, she wouldn't dare speak to people like that. She'll snap at anyone, for any reason (or no reason at all), and it can get violent at times, and I just don't want to have to deal with that AND my sister's inevitable coming to terms with the realities of who our mother is now at the same time. I'm lucky enough that my sister who is just a year older than me is around enough to help out occasionally, but this would be another situation in itself and that's terrifying. I love my sister, I'd love her to come for a visit, but I know she couldn't handle this, and I would hate for her kids to be exposed to it, as well. You're right, though, Covid being what it is, she may not be able to get out here, anyway. I know the UK is going back on lockdown, so odds are she won't for a good while at the very least, but if she does choose to at some point...well, it'll be something! As for me keeping it together, honestly, most days I'm not. I get to bed at night and just want to punch walls and have a complete breakdown, but I don't because I know if I'm out of commission there's no one there to help her. Not to mention the fact I've got all of my own medical issues going on that keeps me occupied, as well, and there's plenty there that keeps me on the edge of a breakdown. Not saying all of this searching for sympathy, it's just life and we all have our issues going on. What helps is having an outlet and using that outlet. For me it's games, but that's becoming difficult to find time for, so it's also websites, communities like this one, and just trying to have fun and get some enjoyment out of whatever I do to relieve that stress. Can't keep it all in all the time, so find a way to get it out and it really helps to balance you out a bit. [/QUOTE]
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