Humans saying I love you

[ahill1]

Humans saying I love you to others when dying. It's shown that way cinematographically and in real life it's human to want to say the final words, either through speech or message.

There is one side, a valid one, that expresses this as the person wanting to express just how much they mean to them. A moment of complete gratitude that will be missed.

But there is one side too, which I have thought up somewhat before... Is the farewell, expression for love perhaps not in a need to tell it for what the person will forever miss, but as a way to be remembered the best way possible, to be remembered well in the most noble way?

 

[Giga Hertz]

But there is one side too, which I have thought up somewhat before... Is the farewell, expression for love perhaps not in a need to tell it for what the person will forever miss, but as a way to be remembered the best way possible, to be remembered well in the most noble way?

Some probably want it as an act of dignified nobility, but I think the vast majority just want to be sure that their loved ones know for certain. People hold a lot of hurt and angst over not knowing for certain whether they were actually loved by that person. If anything, it's a kindness for the person left behind.

 

[ahill1]

Some probably want it as an act of dignified nobility, but I think the vast majority just want to be sure that their loved ones know for certain. People hold a lot of hurt and angst over not knowing for certain whether they were actually loved by that person. If anything, it's a kindness for the person left behind.

Would you say this is more prevalent, way more, with family, while with friends, the other option is generally more likely?

 

[Giga Hertz]

Would you say this is more prevalent, way more, with family, while with friends, the other option is generally more likely?

Guess it depends on the person. I say it to my close friends reasonably often (probably more than my family, to be honest). I tell my wife multiple times a day. I don't really want anything out of it, I just want them to be aware that I actually do care about them.

There's definitely some narcissists that would say it for their own benefit, but most people otherwise find it difficult to be that vulnerable in the first place.

 

[ahill1]

True.

I think tho in some cases. You may legit care about the person on a deep level... But that the fact you wanna share them may also come from valuing that the person will hold you dear after passing.

 

[Giga Hertz]

True.

I think tho in some cases. You may legit care about the person on a deep level... But that the fact you wanna share them may also come from valuing that the person will hold you dear after passing.

I would think most people, on a base level, probably don't want to be forgotten when they die. I wouldn't want people holding negative feelings about me if I died, but that's largely because that's no way to live, either.

When I die, I'm going to be with God. That's pretty much all I know. My only really want is that I've done as much as I can with my life for those around me; I'm not going to care what they think of me when I die. I just don't want them to carry anything that will weigh on them.

 

[Yoshi]

My grandmother and my grandfather said this to each other when my grandmother was with my grandfather on his deathbed.