Relationship Advice Thread

[Giga Hertz]

I’m catching up with old friends through the phone and social media. I’m just now starting to hang out with them in real life again.

That's great! It can be really hard to do in your late 20s/early 30s. Just take it as it comes, and go out when you can.

Not yet but I’m considering things like Main Event, Dave & Busters, Putt Putt, etc.

Cool. If there's any sport, or TCG/tabletop clubs or something you can hang out, those are also good.

I’m trying to convince my parents to settle for a church, any church, but my Dad is too picky.

Wellllllll... Church is something you should be picky about to varying degrees. Is your family actively looking or is it one of those things where no one goes anywhere for months at a time?

You don't want to end up somewhere like Joel Osteen or Westboro Baptist... and likewise, you don't want to end up anywhere that's flying rainbow flags and praying to mother earth.

 

[Yoshi]

Wellllllll... Church is something you should be picky about to varying degrees. Is your family actively looking or is it one of those things where no one goes anywhere for months at a time?

You don't want to end up somewhere like Joel Osteen or Westboro Baptist... and likewise, you don't want to end up anywhere that's flying rainbow flags and praying to mother earth.

My family used to actively look around, but now they just gave up whereas I still want to search.

 

[Giga Hertz]

My family used to actively look around, but now they just gave up whereas I still want to search.

Is there anywhere you can actively get to in the area to try? Did you go to any previously you like? If there's some places you can get to on your own, try them out. If you'd like me to vet them, you're welcome to PM some of their websites/details.

 

[Yoshi]

Is there anywhere you can actively get to in the area to try? Did you go to any previously you like? If there's some places you can get to on your own, try them out. If you'd like me to vet them, you're welcome to PM some of their websites/details.

No because I can’t drive. I want my Dad to go to Rush Creek Church because it’s near our neighborhood but he uses the sorry excuse that he’s never been there before despite living nearby it, so it would be embarrassing for him to try it after all this time. I don’t have a very good Church experience in general but I’m willing to try again.

 

[Giga Hertz]

No because I can’t drive. I want my Dad to go to Rush Creek Church because it’s near our neighborhood but he uses the sorry excuse that he’s never been there before despite living nearby it, so it would be embarrassing for him to try it after all this time. I don’t have a very good Church experience in general but I’m willing to try again.

That's silly. They really won't care. Most churches are excited to have new people, and love when someone who has been in the community for so long decides that they want to try it!

If it's within walking distance, I encourage you to go. It looks like most of them have two services (9:30am and 11am). At the very least, do try their live services

Watch Live - Rush Creek Church

rushcreek.org

 

[Cell]

I’m catching up with old friends through the phone and social media. I’m just now starting to hang out with them in real life again. Not yet but I’m considering things like Main Event, Dave & Busters, Putt Putt, etc. I’m trying to convince my parents to settle for a church, any church, but my Dad is too picky.

You don't need to go to church with your parents, you can go by yourself.

You don't even need to go to church. Just believe in god.

They're just saying that church is a great place to meet women. It is, problem is, dating FROM church is 1 in 10 chances of meeting the person who will date. It really depends on who you meet in there.



This is from Instagram, but great advice...

 

[Cell]

No because I can’t drive. I want my Dad to go to Rush Creek Church because it’s near our neighborhood but he uses the sorry excuse that he’s never been there before despite living nearby it, so it would be embarrassing for him to try it after all this time. I don’t have a very good Church experience in general but I’m willing to try again.

I'm sorry to intrude, but how old are you. I am 42, and still don't drive. I thought I was the only person. Wtf

 

[Beerus]

I'm sorry to intrude, but how old are you. I am 42, and still don't drive. I thought I was the only person. Wtf

I am 36 and don't drive

I got into a few car accidents so being in a car gives me anxiety, sometimes panic attacks.

 

[Giga Hertz]

You don't even need to go to church. Just believe in god.

They're just saying that church is a great place to meet women. It is, problem is, dating FROM church is 1 in 10 chances of meeting the person who will date. It really depends on who you meet in there.

I'm not saying that. Church  is important. It's certainly not a "go to church every sunday (or at least Christmas and Easter) or you'll go to hell" thing, though.

It's about discipleship, community, and accountability. You can read the Bible and pray, but if you don't have other Christians around you actively guiding that, doing life with you, or challenging you, you will likely:
- get stagnant
- get some really wrong ideas of what the Bible says/what God is about
- be stuck in a very low and complacent place

Again, there are many circumstances that may prevent church attendance, but actively finding people to commune with and worship God is super important. The early church in Acts makes this very clear, as do many of Paul's letters.

As for going for the sole purpose of finding someone to date, I'd be almost inclined to discourage attendance because thats entirly the wrong reason.

 

[Beerus]

Church is meant to establish a community under God so you have a support system. It is like extending your family. It is more for us than it is for God.

 

[Giga Hertz]

It's like not taking your car to get serviced. Sure, it's not mandatory. You can probably get by for a while by keeping it filled with petrol and topping up the oil (or by praying and reading the Bible). Especially if you don't take it out so often (talk about your faith). You could go on for years like this.

But eventually something will give, and that whole car (your faith) is going to stop.

... I also just realised that my analogy may have less of an impact since no one involved in this conversation drives.

 

[Yoshi]

I'm sorry to intrude, but how old are you. I am 42, and still don't drive. I thought I was the only person. Wtf

I’m 30 years old but I’m also autistic.

 

[Giga Hertz]

Did you try the church's online service?

 

[Yoshi]

I forgot. I’ll watch next Sunday.

 

[Giga Hertz]

I forgot. I’ll watch next Sunday.

I'll hold you to it.

 

[Cell]

I'll hold you to it.

lol and the emoji/smilies reflects what you're saying, lol

 

[Yoshi]

lol and the emoji/smilies reflects what you're saying, lol

I think that the members here are good at using the emojis/smilies in general.

 

[Yoshi]

Unless something else comes up I actually plan on going to Rush Creek Church tomorrow instead.

 

[Giga Hertz]

Unless something else comes up I actually plan on going to Rush Creek Church tomorrow instead.

Let me know how it goes.

 

[Yoshi]

Let me know how it goes.

I liked the fellowship, and I also liked the preaching. I tolerated the music and the singing. I joined the Church. It may have been too soon for me to join but I was desperate to join a Church anyway. Other than the loud music and singing it was quite balanced. I just hope my parents go along with me there every other Sunday.