DBF Community Chat Thread
- Thread starter Super Kami Guru
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Ive reached a point i reached twice before the "i hate this part of my look/clothes point"
First it was jeans i had to wear them my entire childhood and during my teenage years i stopped... Forever
Then it was my hair i tended to draw my self with shaggy long hair so f it my hair is gonna be longer now!
Now i reached that point for clothing!
I could wear female stuff but i think for now i do this (partly cause of anti trans sentiments going arround partly to start smaller)
F it im gonna throw away my old grey, black and ugh other boring clothes in favour for clothes i actually want to wear!
Yellow i really wanna wear yellow sweaters and shirt, turquise too, bright green i also finnaly want a goofy ass back pack
I dont care anymore ive never really worn anything i like! I want to wear stuff i actually like instead of these damn black shirts with "cool" speak ugly logos scrabled on!
Also does anyone here know were i can get custom cute mascot head/masks
Reject humanity become cartoon!
First it was jeans i had to wear them my entire childhood and during my teenage years i stopped... Forever
Then it was my hair i tended to draw my self with shaggy long hair so f it my hair is gonna be longer now!
Now i reached that point for clothing!
I could wear female stuff but i think for now i do this (partly cause of anti trans sentiments going arround partly to start smaller)
F it im gonna throw away my old grey, black and ugh other boring clothes in favour for clothes i actually want to wear!
Yellow i really wanna wear yellow sweaters and shirt, turquise too, bright green i also finnaly want a goofy ass back pack
I dont care anymore ive never really worn anything i like! I want to wear stuff i actually like instead of these damn black shirts with "cool" speak ugly logos scrabled on!
Also does anyone here know were i can get custom cute mascot head/masks
Reject humanity become cartoon!
Don't go full furry. Never go full furry.
(Check Etsy, they sell a lot of cosplay stuff on there)
Thats what me and my oldest wear. Shorts and a Hoodie.How about shorts?
Why not?? Like sure a lot of furry masks look a bit ugly imo but like let people live how they want too!
Society needs standards and morals or it will end up destroying itself.
There is a time and a place for dressing up and having fun. Those places do not include school, work, or in public spaces where a gathering or convention isn't taking place.
So I don't care if people want to do this stuff in an appropriate setting (at home or some sort of meeting, club, convention, etc.) but forcing it on the general public shouldn't be acceptable. I view it like I view cosplay or LARPing.
I am not okay at all with the aspects of this culture/hobby/lifestyle that target kids or animals though. Upwards of 30% of furries are cool with pedophilia and bestiality. But that is a deeper more disturbing topic so I will leave it at that.
Societys standarts are cruel and Evil!
(This doesnt even have anything to do with furries)
The fact people with mental disabilitys aka. Autism have to act like they are completly diffrent people is Evil
The fact you dont have an issue with society shows how easy you have it!
I for example constantly have to pretend that im a normal quiet Adult! Like every conversation i have to think about every word i say! Everytime im outside i have to supress everything that makes me me!
Society is cruel, uncaring, evil, unfair and the fact you think that being normal is a good and easy thing to be shows you ....
Ugh
Imagine if women werent allowed to vote or wear pants, imagine if we still had slaves, imagine if everyone who disagreed got sent to prision immeadiatly
Society tends to be wrong a lot!
You are being hyperbolic and attributing your own personal struggles onto society and blaming it.
I don't treat you differently or say you are "not normal" for being autistic but you just declared that on yourself. You view yourself with very low standards and blame society for it.
You are having issues with alexipersona and that is attributed to being autistic. For someone with autism, how you feel about yourself and struggling to find a place you fit in is normal and it doesn't matter what society says/does, that will happen because of how your brain mapped out reality. Society isn't telling you that you have to be a certain way, your brain chemistry is. This is why you struggle to find what you like to wear and revert back to the things that made you feel comfortable as a child. Because you struggle so much with it, you likely developed anxiety and that deals with social withdrawal and overthinking. I am sorry if no one every explained this stuff to you but you are being too hard on yourself.
Alexipersona is a relatively new term that overlaps with identity crisis in autism. It deals with confusion and distress when an individual struggles to accept their autistic traits because of their own inherit beliefs or social expectations in society. Masking behaviors, struggles with self-understanding, and a desire to find one's personality while feeling shame are all part of this. This develops in some people with autism because they lack the ability to self-reflect and understand their own experiences and personality. This can be brought on or out of someone with autism from bullying, prolonged masking, internalized stigma (self-hatred), or feelings of isolation from friends/family. You can work through this with someone (a professional doctor trained for such a thing) to help you build a sense of "authentic-self" but I don't know the process for stuff like this in Germany.
Ok.. i think you misunderstood me?
First up ive only seen one alexi persona video on youtube and yup its a good video but...
I already know most of that stuff! In fact i also found a peak youtube channel right now!
Also I didnt say boy do i suck because i realized after the "birthday inncident" a lot about myself!
Society/people still push autists into those behaviours tho?
I mean I did explain it badly but like if i the weird person that i am want to be accepted (by certain people or groups) i have to try to be more normal
Obviously that is draining as heck and ultimatly didnt help but almost everyone in my life wanted me to be more normal!
Ultimatly *over)thinking my psyche actually helped as i finnally realized a lot!
It might seem obvious but believe me it isnt when youre constantly judged by people/society
I am Me
And
People who made me Cry.. Made me Cry
Very useful information i wish i known earlier but society wants everyone to Fit in and to fit in you have to cut of the parts that dont fit
Ergo society/people/expectatiobs Suck and the fact i realized that and realized ive been in a constant struggle to appease people who made me cry lead to my awakening however I still need to figure a lot stuff out and part of that i doing what i want and experimentation!
The point I was making is that it is normal for someone with autism to struggle with "fitting in" because the way the brain is wired. Autism is VERY common in the US and very few people mean to directly hurt others and intentionally make them feel "left out" because most people know at least one autistic person personally.
The people in your life wanting you to be "normal" don't understand autism or normality. Human normality deals more with biology and hormones than anything else. Everything is off-shot from that. For someone with autism, a lot of what you experience IS normal.
Autism is an abnormality meaning "not normal" on a biological standpoint that is why it is labeled a disorder. Dis meaning "apart" from order. The stigma for it lies in the same stigma for any other mental or learning disability. People that don't understand it only see the differences and can be unintentionally or intentionally cruel simply due to lack of understanding.
You are going to be judged by some people no matter who you are or what you do, so long as you are not hurting others, breaking laws, etc. try not to worry about pleasing people. Society is built on things that kept humanity around and for better or worse, "judgement" is a trait of human survival.
Holding a door for the person behind you, making sure your trash goes in bins, just generally being respectful of other people and the spaces you share with them.
It seems conformity is viewed as a bad thing these days across the board even though it is one of those things that keeps a safe and polite society safe and polite.
*Plays sad Violin Music*
Anyway, who wants to pretend to be normal!? I embrace who I am. Even with all the meds I am on. I'm happy being who I am. However, I won't tolerate people telling me I am supposed to think a certain way.
Anyway, isn't there some countries on a certain continent that are sending people to prison for "Wrong Thinking"? Pretty sure you offend a few certain "Protected classes" you end up on jail. Just for posting a stupid meme on Facebook too.
Anyway, who wants to pretend to be normal!? I embrace who I am. Even with all the meds I am on. I'm happy being who I am. However, I won't tolerate people telling me I am supposed to think a certain way.
Anyway, isn't there some countries on a certain continent that are sending people to prison for "Wrong Thinking"? Pretty sure you offend a few certain "Protected classes" you end up on jail. Just for posting a stupid meme on Facebook too.
What brand? I bought a cheap Ryobi kit but it's lasted at least a year.