Beauty pageants should be illegal for anyone under the age of 16 bare minimum. I would say anyone under 21 personally lol
Both sides do gas lighting. I see it all the time. Both sides have demons. Both sides have problems. This is why I always tell people to not trust political speakers or politicians, no matter how "nice" they seem. Same with group leaders be it for feminist groups, LGBT groups, political groups, or religious ones. Trust should be earned and renewed time and time again. A lot of leaders are in it for their own personal gain and I would say 70% of them are narcissists.
And I seldom see people on either side call out bad behavior which just makes problems like this worse. They just all make excuses. People are flawed and I find it more important to focus on your own community (family, neighborhood, etc) to see healthy change and for protecting kids than worrying about a neighborhood in a state you will never even visit. Everything starts at home, good and bad.