So my dad has heart problems (heart disease) and is on all sorts of meds. He is close to needing a pacemaker. He had to get something done for his heart and it worked but the doctor told him he needs to lose weight, stop drinking, and eat better and he basically said he is not giving up what he enjoys (drinking and eating crap) so idk what to do. My mother is a mess cause she has been telling him for years that he needs to eat better and lose weight and he has only gained weight. It seems like he just don't give a crap anymore. He still also needs his other knee replaced but no doctor will touch it until he loses weight. He is constantly in pain and feels like crap but is refusing to change.
How do you help someone that doesn't want to be helped? It is like he doesn't give a crap about any of us, food and drinking is more important than his own family.
I offered him advise, even got him things that would help him and he never uses any of it. Heart disease, the kind he has, is 100% reversible. I don't know why he won't just put in the effort to help it and help himself. Even if he just loses the excess weight and doesn't fix his diet, he can see at minimum a 50% improvement which can add years to his life.
I am dreading the day something bad happens. He is like a ticking time bomb. I can't imagine what it is like being married to someone that is just giving up like this.
I just wanted to vent about it.