That's such a shame, but yeah, the plus side is that he isn't suffering anymore. It doesn't change the hurt, and yeah, I'm sure he wanted to hold on for you, as well, but at least he's not hurting anymore.
He hadn't been a cuddly cat for a long time, not since he was a kitten really but I still remember one time my ex upset me and I was crying on the sofa and fell asleep to wake up a few hours later with Twig laying in my arms like he knew. He has his ways of showing affection. They were rare but they happened. A lot of people that didn't like cats liked him as well but I think this was because he put up with no one's shit. He wasn't mean but he would let you know when he disapproved.
Yeah, cats definitely know, and they absolutely show affection when they sense you need it. They don't need to be the cuddly cats to be affectionate, they will show it. He knew you loved him and he loved you just as much!
Oh of course not, he was family, he was a friend, I completely understand wishing he was there with you, in the comfort of his home.
You take as much time as you need to process your grief. Hold on to all the good memories of him.
It is hard walking through the house and expecting to see him in his spots. I had him since I was 19 and he is the last friend I had from my teen years and early adulthood. I stopped talking to everyone else (human friends). I loved him so much. It is just so painful.
That's going to be wonderful, a true momento of someone who means the world to you. I hope he turns out perfect!
I understand your pain, I had a Border Collie named Sonny who I'd had since I was about 12, he was my sister's dog for a long, while, but he liked to hang out with me, then my sister moved away and he basically became my dog. He slept on my bed, he stayed next to me all the time, I took him for trips in the car with me, he was awesome. Eventually he developed a tumor and within a matter of a couple of weeks he was too weak to move. We decided we would take him to the vet one more time to see if there was anything else we could so treat it or...if it was time...I hated that day, so much. I went through to my room to grab my car keys, license, etc. and when I came back, he'd passed. It crushed me. I was inconsolable for days, I still get upset thinking about it. I felt selfish for letting him suffer, for wanting him with me as long as possible, and yet I also felt devastated that I wasn't there at the very end, I'd walked away for a couple of minutes and it was over. It's such a horrible, horrible thing to lose a part of your life like that, and it hurts for a long time. Know that he loved you, and no, you didn't cause this, it's not your fault. I completely understand the guilt you feel for not being with him at the time he passed, I do, I felt that same guilt, but it's not your fault. I know it's hard to see it right now, because the loss is so fresh, but take the time to grieve and in time you will let go of that guilt, because this wasn't your fault. My inbox is wide open if you want to talk!
I don't think he felt betrayed, at all. He loved you. You came back for him, kept him close and gave him a good life. He won't have had any resentment towards you, not at all. This wasn't a betrayal, either. You were doing your best to get him the help he needed, that's an act of love, not betrayal.
I lost my Joey in 2018. I was only with him for four years. He was an older cat that we took in. It was hard when I lost him but I got adopted Brock less than 2 days later and it helped with the pain. He was a lot like Twig in that he would go for walks on a leash, was okay in the car, and I was able to take him places without a fuss. I took him to see my Nana a few times at the nursing home even.
Cats that are so personable and outgoing that they'll go places and not panic are so special. They're great. I wish I'd managed to find a cat just like that!
Yeah, cats that travel well are fantastic, truly wonderfult when they'll let themselves be handled. Agreed, it's hard, but it is best that he's not still suffering.
