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Looking into options for an emotional support cat and getting one licensed. I was looking into different breeds which make great emotional support cats. If I get it registered and licensed, he will be able to go anywhere with me which would help when I go in the car and into stores, restaurants, etc. I had no idea the process was as easy as it was or I would have done this years ago.
I think that's a great idea! Perfect for so many situations, and helps keep you company at all times. I hope that works out, because that would be a huge help with anxiety!
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That's the danger of giving yourself a stranger, you've gotta' control that numb wrist!
 
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Do whatever makes you happy, and start fresh with another cat.
It is not so much about starting fresh. I need something to motivate me and comfort me, I need to be encouraged to leave the house. The way I am feeling right now because of losing Twig, I just don't want to end up depressed or stuck in another bout of agoraphobia.
I think that's a great idea! Perfect for so many situations, and helps keep you company at all times. I hope that works out, because that would be a huge help with anxiety!
Me too. I don't want to feel stuck because of my anxiety, especially not right now. I can't even walk through the house right now without sobbing.
 
It is not so much about starting fresh. I need something to motivate me and comfort me, I need to be encouraged to leave the house. The way I am feeling right now because of losing Twig, I just don't want to end up depressed or stuck in another bout of agoraphobia.

Me too. I don't want to feel stuck because of my anxiety, especially not right now. I can't even walk through the house right now without sobbing.
Agreed, you should be free to move around and do something anxiety
 
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It was too soon and too fast. What hurts the most is I wasn't there in his last moments. It is ripping me up inside. I used to take him everywhere with me. Then I started dating someone new and he had a cat and they didn't get along so I couldn't bring him with me when I moved in with him so he stayed with my parents until she passed away. He was only 2 and a half when I moved. We were apart for 3 years. I would only see him when I would go to my parents on holidays as my anxiety got worse and it was hard to be in a car (sometimes hard to leave the house). I know he felt like I betrayed him because he hasn't been the same with me since... And I feel like I just betrayed him again.
The same does apply to me and my mom too! but atleast it wasnt my fault at all (cus i got put into a psycahtry the day she died) so i didnt blame myself! (could also be my weird asperger way of seeing death) but im so sorry for you and twig! i mean i wasnt ever given wrong medicaments of this type but i was often mistreated by profesionals too so i can feel your anger! these vet dudes are terrible!
Dont beat yourself too much up over these kind of things nobody gets better by you beating yourself up! Im sure if there is some kind of afterlife twig would be inteligent enough in it too understand that youre not guilty at all!
 
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When Twig was about 1 and a half, I was told he was likely not going to make it. He was having seizures around the clock, not eating or drinking. He had pancreatitis. He pulled through after two weeks. I had been working at a vet clinic at the time so I was able to bring him in with me every day so he can be watched and get fluid. I hardly slept those two weeks. Even with a painful condition, he still put up a fight at the vets. He hated the doctor and tried to attack him, got me instead.

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There are three lines, one faded a bit. I remember the vet panicking over it because I had blood running down my arm and dripping on the table. Prior to this, he told me to drop him so he didn't get me and I refused. I would never drop a sick animal, especially not my own. Almost 13 years later, I still have the scars and I cherish them now.

He was such a stubborn, beautiful cat. I know it hurts really bad now but I will feel better as time goes. It just doesn't feel like it right now.
 
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When Twig was about 1 and a half, I was told he was likely not going to make it. He was having seizures around the clock, not eating or drinking. He had pancreatitis. He pulled through after two weeks. I had been working at a vet clinic at the time so I was able to bring him in with me every day so he can be watched and get fluid. I hardly slept those two weeks. Even with a painful condition, he still put up a fight at the vets. He hated the doctor and tried to attack him, got me instead.

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There are three lines, one faded a bit. I remember the vet panicking over it because I had blood running down my arm and dripping on the table. Prior to this, he told me to drop him so he didn't get me and I refused. I would never drop a sick animal, especially not my own. Almost 13 years later, I still have the scars and I cherish them now.

He was such a stubborn, beautiful cat. I know it hurts really bad now but I will feel better as time goes. It just doesn't feel like it right now.
I have very similar scars from one of my cats, I like to think of them as love markings. She's a very stand-offish cat, so she shows affection in her own way and...well...I took that as one of her ways :D. That's a great way to look at those scars, a reminder of all you two went through together, a permanent reminder of your love for him and his love for you.
 
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I have very similar scars from one of my cats, I like to think of them as love markings. She's a very stand-offish cat, so she shows affection in her own way and...well...I took that as one of her ways :D. That's a great way to look at those scars, a reminder of all you two went through together, a permanent reminder of your love for him and his love for you.
Another benefit of having a cat is you get free tattoos for life. lol

I looked into the emotional support stuff more. There is a doctor I can talk to on the phone for the evaluation. Once the cat is trained (comfortable being in the car, on the harness, being carried, etc.) I can start the process for that. I am not sure when I will get the cat but I know what breeds are best for something like this. There are a couple available right now for under $1000 ($750 and $650 each. So if they are still available by the weekend, Jay is going to go pick one up for me. They are 5 and 6 months old so I am hoping they will still be young enough to train.

One is a pure Siamese with a mustache and the other is a Ragamese (ragdoll siamese mix).
 
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Another benefit of having a cat is you get free tattoos for life. lol

I looked into the emotional support stuff more. There is a doctor I can talk to on the phone for the evaluation. Once the cat is trained (comfortable being in the car, on the harness, being carried, etc.) I can start the process for that. I am not sure when I will get the cat but I know what breeds are best for something like this. There are a couple available right now for under $1000 ($750 and $650 each. So if they are still available by the weekend, Jay is going to go pick one up for me. They are 5 and 6 months old so I am hoping they will still be young enough to train.

One is a pure Siamese with a mustache and the other is a Ragamese (ragdoll siamese mix).
That's fantastic, I hope you do manage to get one of them (have to admit, a mustachio'd cat would be pretty amazing :). Agreed, I hope they're young enough to be trained and that this will work out, because I think it's an absolutely fantastic idea. Hoping for the best for you and your hopefully new support cat :)
 
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The guy just delivered Twig's ashes. He was very nice. Soon as he asked me how many years I had him I started crying. It is a really nice cherry wood box and it came with his paw print on a baked stone. They gave me some of his fur too. I am going to get containers for both to keep them safe. Brock heard me and came running to me for a hug.
 
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The guy just delivered Twig's ashes. He was very nice. Soon as he asked me how many years I had him I started crying. It is a really nice cherry wood box and it came with his paw print on a baked stone. They gave me some of his fur too. I am going to get containers for both to keep them safe. Brock heard me and came running to me for a hug.
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That is an absolutely gorgeous box, I'm glad they gave you that, the paw print and the fur. It's nice to have them as momentos of the great times you had. Brock showing his mummy he loves her, too, what a good boy :)
 
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That is an absolutely gorgeous box, I'm glad they gave you that, the paw print and the fur. It's nice to have them as momentos of the great times you had. Brock showing his mummy he loves her, too, what a good boy :)
It was $300 but it was worth it. The company that did Joey's gave a nice box as well but a bit different and just a paw on a heart. Had to pick it up as well. The delivery is included with this new company. It makes things so much easier. They included the rainbow bridge poem and a book to help with grieving too.
 
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It was $300 but it was worth it. The company that did Joey's gave a nice box as well but a bit different and just a paw on a heart. Had to pick it up as well. The delivery is included with this new company. It makes things so much easier. They included the rainbow bridge poem and a book to help with grieving too.
Well worth the expense, when we lost Coleman a year ago we didn't even get the choice from the vet we went to, it was just a plastic container....really impersonal service...I'm glad you had the option for something a bit more memorable, he certainly deserved it!
 
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Well worth the expense, when we lost Coleman a year ago we didn't even get the choice from the vet we went to, it was just a plastic container....really impersonal service...I'm glad you had the option for something a bit more memorable, he certainly deserved it!
That is terrible but I guess it depends on who the vet works with. My first cat is in a very old-timey floral tin. I want to update that for him. I have his pin in there as well. He had a pin put in his leg after my brother's friend stepped on it and shattered it. I was surprised they kept it for me but I am glad they did. I used to call him thumper because I would hear him comming up the basement steps as his leg was never 100% healed. The pin just kept him from being amputated.
 
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That is terrible but I guess it depends on who the vet works with. My first cat is in a very old-timey floral tin. I want to update that for him. I have his pin in there as well. He had a pin put in his leg after my brother's friend stepped on it and shattered it. I was surprised they kept it for me but I am glad they did. I used to call him thumper because I would hear him comming up the basement steps as his leg was never 100% healed. The pin just kept him from being amputated.
Wow, that is impressive that they saved the pin, agreed! Not a particularly great memory, but it was a part of him, so that's a really nice touch! Thumper's a great nickname for him with that going on!
 
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Wow, that is impressive that they saved the pin, agreed! Not a particularly great memory, but it was a part of him, so that's a really nice touch! Thumper's a great nickname for him with that going on!
He was my first major loss. I had smaller pets which I cried over but nothing like losing him. I think we talked about him before. His name was Taco and he was a long hair ginger.

It amazes me how painful this is and can be and I am ready to take on another one. I never want to be without at least one cat. A house wouldn't be a home.
 
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He was my first major loss. I had smaller pets which I cried over but nothing like losing him. I think we talked about him before. His name was Taco and he was a long hair ginger.

It amazes me how painful this is and can be and I am ready to take on another one. I never want to be without at least one cat. A house wouldn't be a home.
I completely agree with you, pets make a house worth living in, they make you feel needed, wanted, loved. The void when one passes is just massive, so it's understandable you'd look to, not replace, because you can never replace them, but try to fill that void.

Taco sounds like a sweet cat, it's such a shame what happened to him, though, having to suffer such a painful injury, at least he got past it and lived a good life :).
 
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