Relationship Advice Thread

India Actual said:
Don't worry PLENTY of single mothers in Polk county

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Lucky for me i'm not moving back to Polk County
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I went to the Natatorium and it was full of children, and barely any adults. Dammit. I'm never going back there.

On that note, I'm going to ask out that female coworker of mine again next time I see her at work, and see if she says yes this time. We've maintained healthy boundaries and enough time has passed to where it wouldn't be too awkward if I asked her out again.
 
Beerus said:
Why is that?
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We're going to talk about it later, but there's a combination of things, largely to do with her insecurities and the way her parents hate me (largely because I'm white and live several hour from them (where they'd like her to live)) and consequently treat her over it. There's also a few other personal things we both have to work on and grow in.

But yeah... I don't know how I can be without my best friend. I already got divorced and felt similarly crap 5 years ago.

I don't want to do this again.
 
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Giga Hertz said:
We're going to talk about it later, but there's a combination of things, largely to do with her insecurities and the way her parents hate me (largely because I'm white and live several hour from them (where they'd like her to live)) and consequently treat her over it. There's also a few other personal things we both have to work on and grow in.

But yeah... I don't know how I can be without my best friend. I already got divorced and felt similarly crap 5 years ago.

I don't want to do this again.
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Wait, you're white?!!!!

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Giga Hertz said:
We're going to talk about it later, but there's a combination of things, largely to do with her insecurities and the way her parents hate me (largely because I'm white and live several hour from them (where they'd like her to live)) and consequently treat her over it. There's also a few other personal things we both have to work on and grow in.

But yeah... I don't know how I can be without my best friend. I already got divorced and felt similarly crap 5 years ago.

I don't want to do this again.
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I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you're able to work things out, but I understand the issues with family pressure. Sometimes it's hard for someone to overcome it.
 
Giga Hertz said:
Thanks. I guess I'll find out in an hour or so.

It just pisses me off that I could lose my best friend and that's one of the factors.
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That is pretty awful, hopefully, even if the relationship needs to end, the friendship can stay in tact. There's no need for that to end!
 
I don't know. I don't want either to end. But if the relationship ends, she'll very likely move away from here since she's only here for me. So even if we stay friends, there's a good chance I may not see her much after this.
 
I certainly hope you can both work things out and stay together, it's obvious to see what she means to you, and I'm sure she feels the same. It's a shame when family pressure plays a role in things, especially stupid things like race, that shouldn't make a bit of difference if your child is happy with who they're with.
 
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That is terrible. I get that some parents are very traditional when it comes to stuff like this (dating your own race or religion) but they have to be able to understand and realize people can't help who they are attracted to and how they connect with someone. It just seems cruel to force your child to limit their own relationship options. I hope things work out for you and her.
 
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Well it's over, but after she had some real time to think about it, she attributes it to slight personality conflicts (like how it comes off rough when I express things sometimes). Which is a little better.

We have decided to try and do the friends thing whatever that looks like, with a vague hint that if things change maybe we could go back. I'm hopeful.

That was overnight, barely 10 hours ago. I didn't get much sleep and I'm still strugglign to breathe properly.
 
Giga Hertz said:
Well it's over, but after she had some real time to think about it, she attributes it to slight personality conflicts (like how it comes off rough when I express things sometimes). Which is a little better.

We have decided to try and do the friends thing whatever that looks like, with a vague hint that if things change maybe we could go back. I'm hopeful.

That was overnight, barely 10 hours ago. I didn't get much sleep and I'm still strugglign to breathe properly.
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I'm sorry to hear that. I mean staying hopeful is good but I would imagine it still hurts pretty bad. How long were you both together?
 
Beerus said:
I'm sorry to hear that. I mean staying hopeful is good but I would imagine it still hurts pretty bad. How long were you both together?
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14 months. 8 or 9 of that was long distance which didn't help. We were also reasonably good friends doing stuff and visiting for 14 months before that.

I'm just hoping if this does come back around, it doesn't take another 14 months.
 
Giga Hertz said:
14 months. 8 or 9 of that was long distance which didn't help. We were also reasonably good friends doing stuff and visiting for 14 months before that.

I'm just hoping if this does come back around, it doesn't take another 14 months.
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So you knew each other for over a year then started an online relationship? How long were you apart before you were living together (or living near each other, not sure which you were doing)?